[The term “bromance” is] a simple way to erase the possibility of a queer relationship while also implying that the word “friendship” would be too tender and wimpy for these particular leading men.
Toril Orlesky via The Daily Dot [x]
A succinct explanation of why I loathe that term.
I agree on the queer erasure, but to me bromance is a more tender thing than just friendship. I’ve alway thought of it as an acknowledgement that it is a deeper relationship and there is something there that can be referred to as love. But I admit that my perceptions may be colored by the fact that my idea of bromance is based on Turk/JD from Scrubs. I’ve always thought of it as implying that there would be a queer relationship if not for their not being queer. So like my friendship flow chart goes acquaintance->friend->bromance. This does raise the question of can a queer dude have a bromance, either with a straight dude or with another queer dude? (Being a cis bi- woman who is sort of out of touch with a lot of things, I have no answer. My instinct is a theoretical yes, but I have no idea of they do.)
But I do think it’s really telling that there’s no equivalent term for women. And I don’t think it’s just because there’s not a handy pithy term for it. I mean, I have my bestie. And even though she is straight as a really straight thing, I have offered to run away with her and have a sexless marriage. (How couple-y do we seem? At a dinner with her and my husband, our waitress not only assumed she and I were a couple, but that my daughter was hers and mine.)
So basically, I have no answers, just a vague sense of disagreement and a lot of thoughts.
Apparently, Aaron Carter thinks Hillary Duff is the love of his life. Thirteen years later…
And isn’t she happily married with kids? This all seems very confusing. Like both why he’s come to this conclusion and why Facebook thinks I care.
friendly reminder not to support lindt this easter season, or apparently ever again, because they support autism speaks.
can someone please explain why autism speaks is so bad?
because they’re adamant that autism is a disease that can be “cured”. They don’t have a single autistic person on their board. Autism Speaks produces advertisements, small films, ect. about what a burden autistic people are to a society. They only spend about 4% of their money on “family services.” They create a stereotype that makes it hard for actual autistic people, like myself, be heard and recognized as actually autistic. I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder before they realized that I actually showed signs of Asperger’s. They don’t actually help us.
That’s the problem with Autism Speaks.
(tw for violence, ableism, abuse, murder, and death)
It goes deeper than not having any autistic board members. Many of the allistics running the organization promote the horrific notion that you’re better off dead than autistic, and their influence and “activism” only supports the ideology resulting in the continued murder of autistic children and adults by their parents and caregivers.
Former Autism Speaks board member Harry Slatkin, whose wife, Laura, continues to serve on the Board of Directors, stated in an interview with Town and Country while still a board member that sometimes he hoped their autistic son David would drown in the backyard pond rather than “suffer like this all his life.” Evidencing a pattern of similarly violent rhetoric, Autism Speaks is also responsible for the 2006 PSA “Autism Every Day" in which their then Vice President states on camera that she considered putting her autistic daughter in the car and driving off a bridge, and that the only reason she refrained from doing so was because her other, non-autistic daughter would have been waiting for her at home—her autistic daughter was in the room as she made these statements. Furthermore, the producer of this PSA explicitly admitted that the film was intentionally staged to portray negative images of autistic people and their families.
Only four days following the release of “Autism Every Day,” pathologist Karen McCarron smothered her autistic daughter with a garbage bag. McCarron stated that she murdered Katie because her “autism had not been improving,” had thought about killing Katie, that made an earlier brief attempt at suffocation, wanted to cure Katie, thought killing Katie would make her “complete” in heaven, and wanted to live without autism and thus had to kill Katie. Investigators found that McCarron was obsessed with different treatments for Katie. (See People v. FRANK-McCARRON, 934 NE 2d 76 - Ill: Appellate Court, 3rd Dist. 2010.) Though it is not presently possible to draw a direct connection between Autism Speaks’ PSA and Katie’s murder, this crime and dozens like it only underscore how the kind of rhetoric that Autism Speaks favors only serves to recklessly endanger the lives of autistic people.
Autism Speaks also publicly supports the Judge Rotenberg Center, a group home for autistic and neurodivergent students that uses “treatments” like food and sleep deprivation and electric shock to try and train the residents into acting neurotypical. The center has changed states three times in an attempt to bypass regulation against abusive treatment, and their practices have resulted in the deaths of more than one student.
It’s not just an issue of Autism Speaks making it harder for us to get proper diagnoses and treatment. Autism Speaks is actively killing us.
RiverSedge, the 30 year old UTPA literary journal , is poised to resume publication through the English Department and MFA Program at the University of Texas Pan American. RiverSedge has a proud past and, I hope, a bright future publishing art and literature reflecting our unique Southwestern culture.
With institutional support, an impressive Editorial Board of published writers and the aid of enthusiastic students, we aim to resume publication in August 2014.
To do so we need your help. Please spread the word that we are seeking the best unpublished short fiction, poetry, scripts, art work, creative nonfiction and graphic literature. We begin with contests for best fiction and best poetry with $1,000 prizes in each category. All submissions in these two categories will automatically be entered in the contests.
The fine print: persons currently affiliated with UTPA, UTB, and STC are barred from submitting. Only submissions sent throughout the online service Submittable will be considered. Deadline for submissions is May 10.
The graduate run lit mag at my alma mater is starting back up! Please note that they are looking for “graphic literature”! I know their graphic lit editor, she wants to read your comics! (Actually, I know just about all the editors as they are my former professors. Your genre fiction will probably not go over well unless it puts the capital L in literary, but genre comics will probably have a shot.) Also! This is a fee-free fiction and poetry contest! Those are rare. DO THIS.
This are all the proposal that came for my “House of Danvers” sigil. You have today and tomorrow to vote for the one you like. Send me an ask HERE with the number you chose:
1. “Strength From Above.” (3squirrels)
2. “We Rise.” (happyinhats)
3. “Indomitable will, Strength of character, Mastery of the Heavens.” (biggonie)
4. “The Heavens belong to us.” (biggonie)
5. “The Heavens be our domain.” (biggonie)
6. “Nos dinosauros icimus.” (we smite dinosaurs) (senioragentblue)
7. “We are the stars.” (emzorzin4d)
8. “We Be The Stars” (down-sizing)
9. “Honor and strength.” (emzorzin4d)
10. “Our strength, the stars.” (emzorzin4d)
11. “Give the stars.” (emzorzin4d)
12. “Superus, Diutissime, Citius, Amplius” (Higher, Further, Faster, More.) (xalazi)
13. “We are the House of Danvers. Our words are, ‘Rend the Sky.’” (anonymous)
14. “Dinosaurs Are Coming.” (gloryrhodes)
Ah… uhm… 6 makes me giggle, but I really dig 2 and 7. I think 13 would be best as just Rend the Sky. Okay, but also 10. … Final answer… 2.